In utero film - life in the womb
I screened the movie In Utero this morning at my house for a group of women involved in birth and mother-care including a doula/placenta encapsulation provider, the lovely independent midwife, Kay Hardie, who attended the birth of my second daughter, and a hypnobirthing practitioner - all based in London.
The film producers emphasise the value of connection and seek to embody this in the screenings of the film. They say:
So much of our lives now involves the illusion of community as we work alone with the internet. We see people, but they are not flesh and blood. We hear people, but we don’t experience them in as nearly a profound way as when we are with someone in person.
This is why I brought together a group of women to watch the film. We all shared a common bond of supporting women in their pregnancy journeys. We chatted during the film as our thoughts spilled over into dialogue, we often nodded our heads in unison at various points of the film and enjoyed discussing how we can implement this knowledge in our various practices. It was such an inspiring morning - it also involved eating delicious chocolate brownies - always a bonus.
After watching it, I realised the movie is not just for women to watch - it is important for us all as a collective society.
I highly recommend watching it, particularly if you are involved in caring for women or are pregnant/trying to get pregnant.
The message I took from it is that taking care of women in pregnancy is a responsibility we should all bare for the good of our society as a whole.
Another key points I noted from the film: Moriah Thomason said that 50,000 new neurons are being made every second in utero. How incredible is this? These developing neurons are vulnerable to chronic stress and stress hormones.
I had a mild panic while watching the film as, when I was pregnant with my first daughter, I was working long hours in a stressful job as a lawyer in the City of London. One of the quotes referred to in the film was:
Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.
Rather than stress over what is now done, I try focusing on all of the wonderful supportive, nourishing practices I engaged in to nurture myself, and therefore my baby, in pregnancy.
I see the movie as focusing on how we can bring awareness to women and those involved in caring for mothers in pregnancy, as we move forward, armed with this new knowledge. It can be empowering if seen through this lens, I believe,
The film emphasised, for me, the benefits of preparing for having a baby at pre-conception stage. I believe this preparation should encompass our emotional and spiritual bodies, as well as our physical bodies. This should ideally begin before trying to conceive so we cultivate the best possible environment for the baby.
I was also cheering from the side lines at the discussion, by Gabor Maté, of the lost “tribe” in raising children in the post industrialised world and how that is affecting parents and increasing stress. This is the reason I have started my Podcast Mothering the Mother (to launch in the next week, or so) - please also join us in the Mothering the Mother Facebook Group where we continue the discussion and provide an online community for mothers.